do you remember back in school when you had group projects to do? or even if you just had to pair up with one other person for an assignment? usually the first thing most people would do is divvy up the tasks amongst all of the group members. everyone was responsible for their own little part and then at the end you would combine it all into the finished project and submit it for grading.
do you remember the feeling you had when other people were making progress on their part and you hadn’t progressed quite enough yet? awful, right?
but… on the flip side, do you remember when you finished your assigned tasks before everyone else? the feeling of relief, of accomplishment, of satisfaction? you may still need to make corrections, you may still need to help other group members with their parts, you still need to submit the whole thing for grading… BUT… you did your part. there’s something so good about that feeling.
today i bought my stbxw out of our home, now legally my home.
i was worried about this day. i was worried about this step in particular. this is kind of a point of no return, at least financially. it kind of makes things very real. there are legal documents signed. there is a LOT of money that i had to pay out. there are a lot of things made crystal clear that we both had to discuss and agree upon like adults.
i was worried there would be tears. i was worried there would be second guessing. i was worried there would be pleading, or last minute amendments, or any number of uncomfortable scenarios…
but none of that happened, everything is done, and i kind of feel relieved. i kind of feel like i have now completed my part of this specific project and the majority of the remaining tasks are on someone else’s plate. i still obviously have a vested interest in making sure we get a passing grade, but if we do not, no one can say it was my fault. i did my part.